Want to Try BDSM? Start with a Ball Gag

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Whenever we think about BDSM, we might imagine somebody in a full-body leather suit brandishing a cane, or picture women in ball gags, blindfolds, and handcuffs. The truth is, the world of BDSM sex toys is large and diverse, and BDSM practice is becoming more mainstream within popular culture and even fashion.

If you’re interested in testing out the BDSM waters but not sure where to begin, experimenting with a ball gag is a great place to start. A ball gag can offer you all the sensations of power and control (or submission) without much effort, and with most ball gags on the market retailing between $10 and $30, it’s also one of the most affordable BDSM toys. It’s also beginner-friendly, so even if you don’t have much experience with sex toys, you can still have fun with a ball gag without much technical effort.

What is a ball gag?

A ball gag is a small, typically round ball attached to a head harness, which is placed in the mouth of a submissive partner during BDSM play. A ball gag can be used for various purposes, either to restrain the submissive partner or simply contribute to the overall submissive aesthetic of the bound, gagged partner at the whim of their dominant. If you’re familiar with sex toys, you’ve probably seen ball gags on sale in your local sex shop, or on offer at Lovehoney. The truth is, ball gags are becoming extremely popular amongst couples who might not consider themselves BDSM at all. According to The Mirror, one sex shop owner in the UK, ball gags are the most popular sex toys bought by couples in their shop! So, why not try out ring gag bondage and see what the fuss is all about?

What is BDSM?

If you’re interested in the idea of BDSM but you’re not completely clued up about the practice, there are a couple of things to take into consideration and be aware of:

Are you submissive or dominant?
Does the idea of being bound, gagged, and tantalized by your partner fill you with excitement? Do you love the idea of your partner dominating you during sex? Or do you think you’d prefer to be the one brandishing the whip – literally and metaphorically? Do you love the idea of women in ball gags and handcuffs, or men blindfolded or bound? Figuring out whether you’re submissive or dominant shouldn’t be too difficult: most people are exclusively one or the other.

BDSM boundaries are strictly enforced
While BDSM is about power, control, and submission, it’s firstly about respecting pre-agreed rules, safe words, and limits. Some BDSM couples might prefer to discuss their limits beforehand, while others simply make use of a safe word. No matter your method, it’s important to ensure that your partner is 100% on board with any BDSM fantasies before engaging in play.

So, why do people like using a ball gag?

BDSM enthusiasts like using a ball gag because it enhances the sensation of power-play: a ball gag removes from the submissive partner the capacity for expression, enhancing the sensation of domination and control during play.

Why do submissives enjoy using a ball gag?
Submissives like using ball gags for one simple reason: what appeals most to a submissive is surrendering control. What could be more submissive than surrendering the ability to speak and express yourself during intimacy? When the ball gag is in place, the submissive is at the total whim of their partner, leading to the rush of adrenaline and excitation which stimulates the submissive during sex.

Why do dominants enjoy using a ball gag?
Dominants love using a ball gag on their partner as it enhances their sensation of total control during sex or play: the dominant partner can tease and tantalize the submissive as much as they please, knowing that the submissive has zero control over what’s happening. Power transfer is what remains central to BDSM play, but the key word here is transfer: power is given, not taken, in a BDSM relationship. Most BDSM relationships take place within a consensual, often romantic context, so a lot of complicity and trust must be at play.

How to use a ball gag?

You might be wondering – what is a ball gag used for? Here are some beginner-friendly ways to make the most of a ball gag, without the use of any other sex toys or accessories:

Enhanced oral sex
If you love going down on your partner and driving them wild while doing so, incorporate a ball gag into the act! You’ll love making your partner squirm with pleasure, and your partner will be able to express themselves fully knowing that all their screams of pleasure will be muffled!

Bondage play
Besides women in ball gags and handcuffs, bondage play is probably the most common type of BDSM play – probably because it’s so simple yet so intense at the same time! If you want to engage in bondage play, you don’t need any fancy kits if you’re a beginner. Simply use something to tie your partner’s (or your own!) wrists or ankles and voila! You can use a belt, a tie from a dressing gown, anything that isn’t too uncomfortable or irritating on the skin.

Take control
When it comes to using a ball gag, you don’t need much to make the experience fun and memorable! Simply use the ball gag during sex and have the dominant partner take control: you’ll get a taste for power-play and see if you want to experiment further down the line with other BDSM toys.

There are many ways to introduce a ball gag into your intimacy, so get creative – although make sure to discuss the subject with your partner first. To make sure you don’t waste any money, never buy a couple’s toy without first briefing your partner – you can simply make hints if you want to keep it a surprise. Plus, it might be more fun to pick out the right ball gag together!

How to pick the right ball gag?

If you’re going to take the leap and dip your toes into the BDSM waters with a ball gag, you need to make sure to pick the right one. There are a couple of factors to take into consideration before making your purchase:

● What is the best ball gag size?
● Will I be able to breathe wearing a ball gag? (Choose a breathable ball gag with holes if you struggle with this)
● Where can I buy a ball gag? (We recommend always using respectable retailers when it comes to buying sex toys.)

Verdict?

A ball gag can be a fun way to test out some BDSM play together as a couple. Make sure that your partner is fully on board before experimenting with these types of toys, no matter if they’re the submissive or dominant partner.

January 26th, 2022
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