How to get the most out of sex toys

• Be aroused by your toy. Okay, if you’re new to sex toys for men then this may sound strange. But it’s true. Choose a toy that gets you excited. For some men, that’s the realistic-looking vaginas. For others, that’s the more sleek and modern looking strokers from brands such as Kiiroo. This toy is for YOU – so make sure it’s something that you feel excited to use. (Pun absolutely intended!)
• Be aroused by some porn too! If you really want to make sure your orgasm is out of this world, watch something that’s going to get you super excited. If you’re not willing to pay for the Virtual Reality porn that I mentioned above (although give it a try before you toss it out completely!) There is PLENTY of free porn all over the internet. Turn it on, get yourself comfortable and have at it.
• Do NOT forget the lube. If you’re having sex with a woman, you want her to be wet right? Well the same goes for your sex toys. Make sure you lube up, or it’s not going to be a very comfortable and pleasurable experience. Just make sure you know what type of lube to use based on the type of material the toy is made of. To be on the safe side, always use water-based lubricant. This is fine to use on all toys, no matter the material.
• Get creative with your positions and locations. When you fantasize about having sex with someone, are you always doing it missionary style on the bed? Of course not! So don’t get stuck in some lame routine with your toys either. These blowjob machines are for YOUR pleasure – so do whatever you want, wherever you want! (I mean, within reason… don’t get arrested, okay?) But seriously. Use your imagination. Try it in the shower, on the couch, or hell – get yourself off while you’re sitting at your own dinner table eating, or while you’re playing video games even.
• Include your balls. And your anus. I wish I didn’t even have to remind you of this, but so many guys out there completely forget about these areas that have SO much potential for serious pleasure. Nobody will judge you I promise. In the privacy of your own home, what better time is there to try new and exciting things to see just how much sexual pleasure you can get?? Just do it. You can thank me later.
• Always clean up after use. While it may seem like a good idea when you’ve just blown your huge load everywhere to just ‘clean it up later’, I’m going to advise against that. These toys give you so much pleasure – you should treat them with a little respect. Clean them out soon after you finish. This makes it way easier to clean AND it makes your toys last longer.
• HAVE FUN!!! I can’t stress this enough. We finally have such a wide variety of sex toys for men available on the market – it would be a shame to only try a couple of types! Explore. I dare you.

What you should avoid when buying masturbation toys

• Shady materials. – As I mentioned above, there are a lot of companies out there making toys out of materials that aren’t really good for us. Make sure you check the label carefully so you know what you’re buying. We are putting these toys in very sensitive areas of our body, and we don’t want to absorb any toxic chemicals from cheap plastic toys. This is especially true for any toys being inserted – whether in the anus or the vagina. Silicone toys are great, as are the realistic skins made by the large, reputable companies I’ve mentioned above.
• Shady websites. – If you’re a regular shopper on the internet, you’ve probably already got this step figured out. If you’re new to online shopping though, make sure you really pay attention to the website, and whether it seems legitimate or not. A website that looks as though it has been thrown together and doesn’t offer the regular verified payment systems… beware. Buy from reputable websites only.
• Non-discreet packaging. – Make sure that the place you’re buying from offers discreet packaging. That is, of course, if you don’t want your mailman handing you a box that says “DICK STROKING TOY” on it in big letters. *embarrassing* right? So be sure that the website that you’re purchasing from offers discreet shipping. And also be sure to pay attention to this at the checkout. In some cases you’ll have to tick a box during the payment process to request discreet packaging. You won’t want to miss this.
• Non-existent refund/return policy. – Any reputable company will have some sort of return/refund/exchange policy in place. This signifies that the company believes in their products – but it also signifies that they are selling you the REAL product. They want you to receive exactly what you’ve asked for, and if that’s not the case good companies and websites will have specific details readily available on how they deal with these situations. Make sure you find this where you’re purchasing from.
• ‘Too good to be true’ offers. – If you find Lana Japanese Doll for example, on a site saying she’s ‘Just $500!’ be smart. Her regular price is over $1500. Just like anything else in life – if this seems too good to be true, then it probably is. There are some companies that make replicas of toys in poor quality materials, or will simply show you a picture of the real doll and then send you something completely different. So you know… just be smart.

To say that some fetishes are stranger than others would be something of an understatement. The following examples barely scratch the surface of what some people are into, but nonetheless illustrate just how different kinks can be from one person to the next:

• Agalmatophilia – Arousal to statues
• Chasmophilia – Arousal to caverns, crevices, and valleys
• Climacophilia – Arousal to falling downstairs
• Formicophilia – Arousal to insects
• Nasolingus – Arousal to sucking on a person’s nose
• Nebulophilia – Arousal to fog
• Necrophilia – Arousal to corpses
• Psychrophilia – Arousal to being cold and watching others who are cold
• Pteronphilia – Arousal to being tickled by feathers
• Stygiophilia – Arousal to the thought of hellfire and damnation

But what’s interesting about the whole domination fetish is the way in which it is deeply rooted in an aspect of human psychology that affects a vast proportion of the population.

Each of the fetishes outlined above is relatively rare – attraction to people who are assertive, powerful, commanding and have a ‘take-charge’ attitude is anything but. The more liberal attitudes become regarding sexual preferences, the clearer it’s becoming that many (if not most) people enjoy being dominated from time to time.

Where Does the Appeal in Domination Lie?

Evolution psychologists have attempted to pinpoint the root cause of our desire to be dominated for generations. They’ve made apparent connections between our genetics and our likelihood of seeking dominant or submissive relationships, but the whole thing isn’t quite as simple as this.

Instead, there’s apparently a close correlation between our own individual personality traits and how likely we are to enjoy submissive or dominant relationships.

For example, if you are the kind of person who likes taking risks, enjoys adventurous experiences and has a passion for seeking out the unknown, you’re inherently more likely to seek dominant partners and more intensive sexual experiences.

At the opposite end of the scale, those who enjoy quieter lives and prefer to keep things as calm and predictable as possible are far less likely to expose themselves to domination.

And as there are thousands of contributory factors that affect personality development – genetic and environmental alike – no two adults end up with exactly the same sexual preferences or preferred fetishes.

What is Extreme Financial Domination?

Extreme financial domination – the specialist area of the legendary IshtarXXX – is one of the newest additions to the contemporary fetish landscape. Something that was completely unheard of some time ago, extreme financial domination is a form of domination that typically excludes any physical contact between the dominant and the submissive whatsoever.

Instead, it is a game wherein the dominant takes partial or complete control of the submissive’s finances – effectively leaving them completely at their mercy. The relationship begins with requests and demands for small amounts of money, which may be (and often are) gradually increased over time.

Those who are skilled in the art of financial domination are able to provide their clients or ‘cash pigs’ with a uniquely exciting and exhilarating experience, without ever actually meeting them in person. For those who get a kick out of financial domination, there’s something primally satisfying about the complete lack of control and even the fear that accompanies relinquishing control to someone else.

In some instances, the threat of the relationship being publicized by the dominant (unless appropriate payments are made) is where the thrill lies. In others, the submissive gets a kick out of funding the lifestyle of the dominant, making payments in exchange for personal messages, seductive images and so on.

A Different Kind of Domination

Understandably, it can be almost impossible to explain the appeal of financial domination to those who do not get it. But when it comes to the psychology of the whole thing, it’s actually no different than any other form of domination.

It’s just that the physical contact is excluded, which isn’t particularly unusual these days with the long list of ‘services’ being offered by dominants online.

If the enjoyment of domination for the vast majority of submissive is primarily psychological, it’s the loss of control and effectively being told what to do by somebody else that make the experience exciting. Particularly when there are potential consequences to face in the event of disobedience, which is often how things work with extreme financial domination.

Of course, nobody gets into this kind of thing with the intention of falling into debt, or ending up bankrupt. Nevertheless, putting so much on the line and knowing the ultimate outcome is almost entirely out of your control can be just about as exciting, exhilarating and intoxicating as it gets for those with more adventurous personalities.

In the true fashion of 2020, we now have more options than ever for getting our adult entertainment- socially distanced of course.

Over and over again we hear how the covid-19 pandemic, and subsequent shutdowns, have not only killed millions- but have also brought on an impending mental health crisis that no country seems to be primed and ready to deal with. For those of us that were fortunate enough to keep our jobs- few were able to keep a grip on social intimacy. With the even introvert enjoyed din of public space, many of us have become slaves to the cold and singular monotony of our home offices and twice daily amazon deliveries. Read more..